Solution to why you haven't

You have been in a situation of getting acquainted with a person. After that, the two of them talked very happily, but in the end, you still couldn't be sure whether the person was flirting, like me or not, then hesitated and dropped the chance to 'escape. F.A 'life?

Or for women, when did you have a pleasant conversation with a friend and then that friend suddenly . confessed and you were forced to refuse?

If you've ever had this problem, there is good news for you, which is that you are not alone because there are many people in the world who fall into the same situation.

According to the latest research by the University of Kansas (USA), almost everyone doesn't really feel sure when someone is flirting with him.

Jeffrey Hall, a professor of communication studies at universities, said: "If you think someone who is not interested and intends to flirt with you, you may be right. But sometimes you will miss the opportunity when you don't receive it. a person who has feelings for me ".

Professor Hall performs pairing experiments with 52 single male and female couples. He arranged for each pair to talk for 10 minutes, then asked them to fill out the first impressive multiple choice questionnaire when chatting.

The questionnaire includes multiple choice questions about whether or not they try to flirt with their opponents and think that the other person is flirting with them while they are talking.

The results showed that the very good candidates detected signs that the partner . did not flirt with him, with a rate of up to 80%. However, for the question of whether flirting from an opponent is not. Only 36% of men choose the right one, while the female is lower - about 18%.

The reason for this phenomenon was attributed to Professor Hall, which is due to the loss of connection when interacting between the two.

Professor Hall gave evidence of an example of a couple having just experimented. He thought that, although the two were trying to flirt, attracting the enemy, no one noticed.

In other words, they ignored the interaction and allowed the "green light" signal to be obscured, even though they both had feelings for the opponent.

In addition, another experiment by Professor Hall showed that the ability to recognize the flirtatiousness of the observer is equally as blurred as the insider.

He gave 250 reviewers of some short clips of the dialogues and up to 66% could determine who . didn't flirt.

But only 38% correctly identified 'courtship' cases and even only 22% of observers were women who answered correctly. This is probably the reason why so many guys 'suck in bitterness' when doing all kinds of things that people still don't care about.

Professor Hall gave some signs to see if other people were "flirting" with them. According to him, it is difficult to recognize the signs because we often assume that the opponent does not intend to attract me.

In most cases, people often do not flirt or find ways to attract the people they contact, chat right away when they first meet.

However, many people sometimes find ways to attract the enemy, even some people do so on a regular basis.

Professor Hall said, if you want to better understand flirting from others, there is only a way to open yourself . Pay attention to the situation of the conversation, pay attention to the body language, the 'strange' signs of the opposite person, and always leave room for the assumption 'He / she is wanting flirt with yourself '.

* The article is based on the information and views of Jeffrey Hall researcher posted on the Huffington Post.