Psychological reactions after being confessed

In any couple's relationship, being able to hear that person confess "I love you" is one of the best things.

This emotion is even more surging when you first hear the confession of someone who secretly loves to remember."I love you" - 3 short words but contains a profound meaning.

However, not all of us know how to choose the right time to confess these 3 important words because of the nervousness and shyness that will somehow invade your feelings at that time. But then after we have recorded three "I love you " voices, we will be in trouble thinking about what she / he will think, do they love me?

According to Dr. Aaron Ben-Zeév - one of the leading experts in emotional research, when we want to confess 'I love you', choosing the right time is very important.

That time may be after 5 meetings, after 3 months of dating or when you completely burst into a feeling of love. Each relationship evolves in different ways, so you can take a few months to say 'I love you' to a loving person, but it may take only a week to make a decision to keep people. That is with me.

According to Aaron Ben-Zeév, there is a difference between superficial romantic relationship and deep love. The superficial romantic relationship focuses primarily on sex appeal, while deep love is warmed up by the need to express yourself and share experiences together.

Deep love needs time to develop , so to tell that person, you love him / her sincerely early is difficult to be trusted and accepted by the opponent.

Psychologist Stony Brook and colleagues conducted a study with 10 women and 7 men who were married on average for 21 years. These people said that they really had a deep love before deciding to proceed to marriage.

Researchers scanned the brains of participants with fMRI while they were asked to look at pictures of their mate's face. The results showed that there was a significant activation in the brain's central nervous system.

This is very similar to the signs found in people who begin to experience feelings of love and are completely different from those who marry because of an agreement or for some purpose.

In addition, everyone has a love expression at different levels. The results of an eHarmony survey in 2013 showed that men lost an average of 88 days to say 'I love you' , while women took 134 days.

According to experts, the reason for this difference is because when the boys are shaken by someone, they often want to speed up the relationship. This is reflected in the fact that 39% of men say 'I love you' in just one month of meeting while this figure for women is only 23%.

However, contrary to the view that men are very poor in remembering important milestones in their relationship, most men remember important dates and up to 77% of people remember exactly the time. First they say 'I love you'. Only 5% did not recall until the first time they held their lover's hand.

The difference in personality also makes us feel the vibration before the enemy at different speeds. Shy people tend to express love more slowly than those who are direct, even when their positivity level is equal.

Another study in 2011 showed that men are happier than women when they hear the words of affection or receive a nod from them.

That means, you will "break" your emotions when your opponent accepts your confession. More specifically, this happiness will become more and more sublimated when you are sure that the person has the same feeling as you.

Aaron Ben-Zeév shares: ' Nurturing sincere love needs to come from two sides, but this does not mean you have to hide your feelings just because the person you love does not (or has not) loved you like you love him. Express your sincere interest to help him / her feel your feelings. '

If you are too nervous and timid, you can start to discreetly put the word 'love' in everyday conversations like: calling the person you love is ' love ' or saying things like ' My love . yours' until you have enough confidence to say those 3 important words.

However, after you confess your feelings and believe that the person is the love of your life, as the parents of your children, love can still fade away over the years.

New relationships, boredom in love will make your feelings become embryos and will at some point fade away. So, "shock" the spirit and take care of your love right now. A small gift with a whisper "I / I love you / you" will never be redundant in any affair.

* The article is based on the researcher's point of view Alexia LaFata published in EliteDaily Magazine.