You are accidentally harming children when they make them believe that Santa is real

We think we are giving children a beautiful childhood, but the truth is not like that.

Another Christmas season comes. Children all over the world are eager to write letters to Santa Claus, and sit lowly hoping for pretty little gifts, wonder if I have been good enough this year.

Our adults always tend to give their children a beautiful childhood with fairy tales, and miracles always happen to make life better. But in fact, lies can harm children later when they discover the truth.

Why do adults try to make children believe in Santa Claus?

Santa can be considered as the person who brings gifts to children around the world at Christmas. Children who are good will be given the right gift they wish.

These myths are told by adults to their children, to help them have a beautiful childhood. Then, the children tried to be obedient for the whole year to receive beautiful gifts on Christmas Eve.

Gifts from Santa is the childhood of many people.

However, shouldn't it be that children from small ages have always believed in miracles, and fairies will appear when good people get into trouble?

Christopher Boyle Professor of Psychology at Exeter University and Doctor of Social Sciences Kathy McKay of New England University (UK) said that the lie of parents is just a wish to comfort their own childhood only.

Hard life makes adults want to return to childhood.

Dr. McKay said there is strong evidence that adults are always looking for opportunities to return to childhood again, though unconsciously.

It is not natural that Harry Potter, Star Wars or Doctor Who - mystical, fictional stories - have a large fan base of adults. This proves that we have a strong desire to return to childhood . In an article called "Great Lie," the author wrote: "Perhaps the worst thing about this Christmas lie is that someday, truth will surely be exposed."

The harmful effects of lies seem to be harmless

We thought for children to believe in fairy tales for as long as possible, so that they were not upset because their real life was too difficult with many attempts. However, experts have advised that: That lie can ruin the parent-child relationship when they know the truth.

A lie can ruin a child's beliefs and make them suspicious and wary of everyone around them, including their parents.

Children can lose faith in their parents and those around them.

The two scientists also condemned the idea of ​​threatening children that there is a center in the Arctic that has very smart elves watching the children, then assessing whether they are good or bad that year.

Professor Boyle said: "The humanity of making children believe in an untrue thing needs to be questioned. All children will grow up sooner or later they will know that they have believed. "I have a lie for many years. This makes them wonder how many more lies they have told them."

"If adults have lied all this time, what is true? If Santa is not true, what about fairies? And magic and God? Is there any real thing?"

They will ask questions.

The awkward thing when one day they discover the truth

Whether to lie to children about Santa Claus has been controversial. Imagine that one day your child will go home crying to compensate that they are bullied because they insist that magic is real while other children do not think it is true.

"I said Santa is real, but my friends don't."

They will ask you to rush: "The first story is not true? What about the fairy tales? Then why do you have Christmas gifts every year on New Year's Eve? So the parents lied to you Is there anything else that parents haven't told me yet? "

Obviously for children who do not believe in Santa Claus in the first place, they will not be as sad as the children who discover it is a lie. Therefore, saying, being a parent is not easy.

In short, for children to know the truth, their childhood is still beautiful. We all immerse ourselves in Harry Potter knowing that the owl does not deliver letters, or sink into Star Wars adventures, knowing that movie creatures are not true, right? So are children.