Science has proven: The more the pair quarrels, the happier they are?

Did you know, recently, scientists from India have been studying married couples to determine whether controversy affects their relationship.

The results showed that 44% of respondents said that controversy plays an important part in marriage happiness. They say that debating more than once a week will help make communication more open between the two.

Moreover, another 14-year study has also concluded that couples who argue often (but in a peaceful way) cannot separate.

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Arguing more than once a week will help make communication more open between the two.

This study was conducted for 79 couples across the Midwestern United States. According to FamilyShare, the common point between happy couples is to regularly take the time to argue about popular topics in life, talk openly and give honest suggestions.

However, the two concepts of debate and controversy are not the same

Arguing is to give arguments to convince the opponent, in a positive and healthy direction, to express emotions at a shared level. Meanwhile, controversy is a more negative trend, when the speaker has no listeners and one of them always likes to "jump" into someone else's mouth.

In fact, the enemy who kills the fastest relationships is simply hiding his emotions and just silently passing . When emotions are hidden, it is like a bomb just waiting for the day to explode. Even if emotions are repressed for too long, it will turn into resentment. The fact that you often argue will give your relationship a change of emotions, help the two sides understand each other better and thus, love will be more sustainable.

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Frequently debating to help the two understand each other better and thus, love is more sustainable.

Sandy Burris, who has been married for nearly 60 years, said: "We argue for the whole time when possible. Because there will be so many things we disagree with or disagree with. If we always easily agree or let go, that relationship will be extremely boring ".

According to Professor William Doherty from the family sociology department at the University of Minnesota, family debates also have a positive impact on children's education.'If the children never see their parents arguing, they will think that marriage is fake.

But if you argue at a harsh, disparaging, cursing and even fighting level, this will also negatively affect your child's psychology. Happy debates based on peace and goodwill will help children feel happiness and develop their thinking '.

So which scientific basis to affirm that bickering couples often live happier?

If you often argue with your other half, both of you will get three unexpected benefits:

  1. First, you won't have to keep your negative emotions for too long.
  2. Secondly, often arguing to show your role is equal in the relationship, when faced with problems and controversy, each side has its own arguments and will analyze for understand.
  3. Third, debate will help each other grow, recognize their own weaknesses and overcome challenges more easily.

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You will need to practice listening skills to be able to better understand your partner.

Therefore, if you want to have a healthy relationship, you should not avoid the debate. But it is not so that you run home causing your "other half" immediately after reading this article.

Remember, it is important that debate is not a battle to confront, but simply a way for two people in the opposite position to look in the same direction, and stand on the same line. . You will need to practice listening skills to be able to better understand your partner.

Couples, please remember, quarrel in peace and in the spirit of receptive !