The truth about common reactions when giving gifts

Studies of gift giving show the truth about gift recipients will help you know how to buy gifts in all occasions!

Originating from England in the mid-nineteenth century, Boxing Day 26/12 (Gift Day) is considered one of the most important holidays after Christmas.

This day is also considered to be a holiday of British colonial countries such as Australia, Hong Kong, Canada and some other countries. This is a day for family and friends to gather, eat and share feelings, exchange meaningful gifts.

In the Gift-giving Day, the gifts are to express the personal feelings of the giver, and at the same time change the greeting on that special occasion.

However, scientists have recently published several human psychological studies that show that gift giving can contain many 'risks' for both parties. Read these discoveries to learn more about gift giving and psychology of gift recipients / gifts.

1. In fact, we often do not like unexpected gifts

The most 'safe' way to give a gift as a recipient is . to ask the person directly. But this is also a very tedious way, because it is no longer meaningful, but like 'buying help'.

So, most people on this occasion have a headache thinking the most suitable gift - beautiful, meaningful, affordable and more importantly 'surprising' . However, through some research, scientists have found that people do not necessarily like 'surprises'.

Several professors at Harvard and Stanford University discovered that gift recipients often just want what they ask for, even some like to 'ask'. Not only that, those who give gifts they like will be praised as 'deep and thoughtful', while the gift that takes a lot of time to hunt is overlooked.

Even though we know that, we still can't avoid this. According to scientists, people tend to take themselves as models and assume that others will like the things they like. In other words, we always expect the gifts we give will make others like it, but at the same time, we are not satisfied when we receive gifts that are not in the right way.

It is quite interesting in this study, the gift that is most appreciated by people but the least given is the 'money'.

2. We do not like to be given gifts with many "accessories"

We often think, giving gifts 'is much less' and the recipients will be more and more appreciative when they receive many gifts. Logically, this is true, because human satisfaction is unlimited. However, human beings always act against the logic, at least in the field of . receiving gifts.

When looking at gifts like 'hugging' , people tend to look at smaller gifts that value the whole gift, even though it can be a valuable gift.

For example, the recipient will prefer a sweater, rather than when the sweater comes with cake, candy. The reason is because they think, 'maybe the value of the shirt is too small, so it needs the items to increase the value'.

According to the researchers, this is the same as the sanction in Western countries: a fine comes with a certain number of public labor hours. If only a fine was imposed, the offender felt very heavy, but if accompanied by public labor for several hours, they could even happily accept it because they thought the punishment was much softer. .

3. There are people who do not like receiving gifts

Normally, everyone likes to receive gifts, except for those who are "crazy" . But in fact, there are many people who do not wish to receive gifts and most of them are 'eyebrow whiskers'.

We often mistakenly believe that men are very easy-going. They easily accept any gift and sometimes don't care what the gift is, sometimes hurting the giver.

However, according to some recent studies, most men have trouble expressing emotions, particularly here is gratitude to receive gifts. When given a gift, women thank and consider it the way the giver expresses his heart.

Men are different, they will scratch their heads and think the gift is equivalent to donate, especially when they receive expensive gifts. So even many people do not wish to receive gifts.

But giving gifts to each other has no errors. Experts recommend that you pay attention to the value and way of giving gifts, should only be moderate enough to show your heart.

4. Being ostracized / isolated because too generous

Generosity is also a way of giving 'gifts' to others. However, this way of 'giving gifts' can cause misery to suffer.

Usually in a collective, the most hated person is probably those who forget ' wallet ' when going out, and always ask for a loan that is never returned. So logically, are people who always carry wallets, are willing to lend money, and always pay the most, the most beloved?

But the research of sociologists from Washington State University (USA) gave different results, the most generous people suffered the same fate as the "miser".

In an experiment, volunteers were divided into groups of 6 people, one by one sitting in front of the computer (the other one was actually programmed by the computer). They will be given a certain number of points, which can be converted into cash and asked to contribute to the common point fund.

The common point fund will be doubled and divided equally among the members, or in other words, if everyone contributes, it will all benefit, but if there is no contribution, only the person will benefit only

At the beginning of the second round, volunteers will be given the right to 'punish' , by removing their points to take away the points of others. Most people punish greedy people who don't contribute, but it's strange that more contributors (mostly computer programmers) are punished.

Scientists explain this because of human envy. We always feel uncomfortable and 'itchy eyes' when we see someone who wants to 'play dominant' . In other words, people tend to force others to follow the majority, and punish those who do not integrate.

However, generosity is still a good virtue. We cannot please everyone, so be yourself and 'generous' . at a level that allows.