Which children are vulnerable to bullying?

Too gentle, not knowing how to resolve conflicts with friends are just two of the reasons why children are often beaten, intimidated or isolated at school.

Children who are often bullied or isolated may be bored with alcohol and drug abuse.Photo: kidsdevelopment.co.uk.

Many previous studies have shown that children who are beaten or ridiculed by friends often encounter certain problems in life. Livescience said 10-13% of school-age children in the United States have faced some form of isolation or bullying of their peers. In addition to causing problems related to mental health, bullying and isolation can also cause children to receive poor grades, drop out of school, abuse of stimulants such as alcohol or drugs.

'It's really an unnoticed problem,' said Clark McKown, a scientist at the Rush Neuroscience Research Center in Chicago, USA.

According to Livescience, McKown and colleagues recruited 284 children aged 4-16 to perform two tests.

In the first test, the team showed them some videos and photos before asking them to assess the emotions of those in the photo based on facial expressions, tone nuances and body movements. In the second experiment, scientists describe a range of situations in life and ask children to say how they handle each situation.

The team then asked parents and teachers to teach 284 children about their social behavior and friendship.

The results show that children with social problems also have difficulty understanding body language. They do not recognize the nonverbal cues, do not understand the meaning of body movements and change the tone of the voice, do not think of reasonable solutions to resolve conflicts with others. .

The number one need of mankind is to be like other people, but many children are lost in their world. They do not understand the basic principles of society and often make mistakes unknowingly.

For example, a child may never pay attention to scowling because of the anger of others or not understanding why his friend stomped. Many children do not know how to reconcile their friends' wishes with their wishes.

'It is important to identify the defects of the child and then overcome those defects,' McKown said.

If children have difficulties in social integration for a long time, a vicious circle will appear. Children who are spurned have very few opportunities to practice social skills, while children who are loved are more than likely to improve their skills. However, children only need one or two friends to practice essential life skills.

Therefore, parents, teachers and adults can help children. Instead of being angry or indifferent when children make mistakes, adults should teach them social skills. In the process of conveying skills, you should keep the tone of your voice from the beginning to the end. If given the opportunity to learn new skills when making mistakes, not as a form of punishment, children often appear more eager to absorb.