Why is gossip so tempting?

Everyone knows that we should not speak ill of others, but why is this little temptation but we can not overcome?

We have all been once like that, time after time, immersed in the guilty pleasure of sitting around talking. Our friend carefully said, "Don't tell this to anyone else," but just a few seconds later, our hearts were sobbing again because we realized we couldn't resist the attraction. the intensity of passing this information on to someone.

What is gossip or gossip?

Gossip is the sharing of personal or sensitive information about a person who was not present at the time. These stories are often negative and confusing to the people mentioned.

Our thirst for rumors is unending.

Gossip has some very salient features:

1. First , it is an activity performed on others, we cannot do it ourselves or imagine in our heads.
2. Second , the story always revolves around a person who is not present in the conversation or is also known as defaming behind others.
3. Thirdly , we not only give out truths or rumors, but we also deliberately "add more salt sauce" to that person.

So why do we like gossip?

Our thirst for rumors is unending . Whether with family, friends, at work, celebrities, most of the stories always contain some form of "grapefruit trade".

We like hearing rumors as much as we want to go public with it. In fact, one study found that people were actually attracted to rumors, even when they knew it was not true. Information starting with weak phrases like "apparently" or "supposedly" is not enough to stop prejudice and defamation. This is because we judge people based on their own emotions even though we know that these thoughts are based on unreliable evidence.

Gossip is very interesting! Gathering and talking about someone who can create a bond and feel familiar to everyone, even to strangers. Although the two don't know each other, they will immediately feel closer when they share something thoughtful or funny about a third person. It is considered a confirmation that they have the same worldview. Our assessments of everything seem to be "brought back to life" when caught up with curious and free people.

Gathering and talking about someone who can create a bond and feel familiar to everyone.

It also gives us a sense of understanding about another person's private life . Moreover, the information we have is often secret things, secrets, a kind of "forbidden fruit", which is always thrilling and dramatic. It also gives us a sense of pleasure like "standing on" the person we talk about.

Gossip allows people to indirectly participate in a world that they should not be involved in , sometimes it gives rise to the illusion of control and influence over that world. This explains why people often disperse about the rich, famous and focus on exploiting the lifestyle and personal life of these people. That's why employees often gossip about their boss or superiors at work. It helps them enjoy the illusion of controlling their own work situation.

We also gossip to warn others about nasty characters or someone we deem dangerous. One study found that in one experiment, the heart rate of participants increased when they witnessed bad and unfair behaviors, but then dropped significantly when they transmitted this information to others. .

When we see someone behave immorally, we become frustrated.Gossip brings satisfaction to our friends.

So good or bad gossip?

Gossip is often rated as negative, malicious and destructive. In the current society, participating in this action is like saying bad things about your companions and disturbing the balance of society. However, this term originally took on a different meaning, originating from the word "god-sibbs" , referring to the godfather or guardian , indicating that the group was particularly close.

Gossip has evolved as a tool to engage large social groups by allowing people to exchange information about the changes that occur in their groups. It allows people to keep up with the lives of relatives and friends and learn about marriage, separation, adding new family members, success or failure.

Gossip brings satisfaction to our friends.

One reason why gossip is so negative today is because it is often used to gossip about someone we dislike . We cannot distinguish between real and misrepresented information. It would be extremely wrong to look at others with suspicious eyes, we should have spent time, energy and peace of mind to make sure we will never be taken advantage of.

Groups often indirectly create norms for how individuals must behave in certain situations by implying a direct consequence of breaking them down. These individuals will adhere to it to avoid encountering embarrassing outcomes when being the target of gossip. While this can be good as it helps to control those who are undisciplined, it can also quickly become malicious with the appearance of ridicule and disdain.

Gossip can become unflattering, distrustful and quite "bitter" to know that the person we are "chattering" now speaks ill of ourselves. The atmosphere of doubt will beset and prevent the ability to continue this "predestined relationship" when we no longer feel confident when sharing secrets.

In addition, it makes the victim helpless, bitter and low self-esteem.

Rumors are often in the best position to defend themselves with their own stories. This makes us suspect that those who spread rumors are not interested in learning the truth.

Gossip can be fun, but it's good or bad depending on the intention of the person whispering in your ear !