A lonely 'disease' from friends

Loneliness is likened to a disease that affects one-third of adults, can stress, sleep disorders, increase the risk of premature death, depression .

In the article just published in The Conversation, psychologist Olivia Remes (University of Cambridge - England) has warned about how a person is "infected" by loneliness.

Loneliness does not stem from the fact that you live alone or with few friends. You can absolutely feel lonely despite a lot of friends and can also be lonely in your outings with friends.

People are "spread" lonely psychology just because they choose to harass someone who is in the mood and heavier than I go out with - (photo: THE CONVERSATION).

Surveys in the UK show that between 21% and 31% of adults must go through lonely periods. Loneliness is not just a feeling. It really is a psychological problem that has been shown to damage the brain if left untreated, weakens the immune system, sleep disorders and increases the risk of premature death.

Mrs. Remes emphasized the importance of lonely "self-diagnosis" . It is when you feel your environment becomes more threatening, you are afraid of being rejected when you ask someone something more and you become more rigorous when assessing things around. You feel lazy to exercise, or eat whatever you like, instead of enjoying a delicious dinner .

At first glance, it seems that you are becoming more fastidious and lazy but it is really just a kind of reaction when you feel you are less connected to the surrounding. Sadly, if you are not aware that you are behaving differently because of loneliness, these behaviors will make people feel more and more near and farther away from you. Loneliness became heavy.

Psychologists also warned that one should not try to resolve loneliness by finding someone to hang out with. Friends who are really close will make you happy. Finding a person who seems lonely like me to hang out can make your loneliness worse.

Studies show loneliness can be contagious. A normal person with a lonely person can be dragged into the mood, making them feel lonely. Conversely, when traveling with a person who is happy, happy, has many connections with society, your mood will be better. This does not mean that you should not comfort a lonely friend, but that you choose a friend who is really cheerful and really close to solving your sadness.

"My research has looked at different ways to combat this situation. It could be to increase the number of people you talk to to find more relationships to make you happier, improve your social skills. And learning how to praise others, but it seems important to change your perception of the world around you, " Mrs. Remes said.

The expert emphasizes self-dialogue: when you are refused to go to dinner, explain to yourself that maybe your friend simply missed an appointment with someone else, not they hate you and try again. on another occasion. A rejection does not make you fail. And as she said above, lonely people often become more strict and fastidious, sometimes they don't realize it. Make yourself aware of that flaw and fix it, sometimes you will find yourself quickly out of loneliness.