Why does the wife always hate her mother-in-law?

The eternal conflict between mother-in-law and bride-in-law has a very scientific reason: wives are programmed in their brains to dislike their mother-in-law.

In a new book published in the UK, author Terri Apter said that even if a wife desires to love her partner's mother, she always has the idea that the two will not get along. And the cause of these conflicts is in men.

" Part of the problem sometimes stems from the problems between mother and son . And these problems have not been solved when he starts a new relationship, " the researcher said. relationship Anne Hollonds said. " Instead of settling the tension between mother and wife, the husband stands aside and lets the two fight with each other ."

The conflict of her mother -in-law and bride is clearly portrayed in the movie " Monster-in-law ". (Photo: AP)

More than 200 people, including 49 couples, were interviewed to get data for the book. Nearly two-thirds of women complained that they had a long-term inhibition of conflict with their mother-in-law. Like in the movie Monster in Law , most mother-in-law feel pushed out of their son's life .

Dr. Apter, a psychologist at Newnham University, Cambridge in England, thinks that both women assume that the other person is implicitly sabotaging his life. " This insecurity really does not stem from actual behavior, but mainly with prejudices that have existed for so long. Both mothers and wives seek to fight for the position of the owner of the house. They both feel that the other person is threatening their position . "

The end of this conflict will become easy if the husband determines the role of each woman.

" I think if the mothers-in-law go to work longer and have their own lives, they will be less involved in the lives of boys, " said South Australia University professor Alison Mackinnon.

A study in Japan in 2008 also found women who lived in a multi-generational family, including grandparents, grown-up children and children, would be three times more likely to develop heart disease, compared to sisters who only live with their husbands.