Women fear being betrayed more emotionally than sex

Phai is afraid of falling in love with women other than having sex outside of sex, while men feel more hurt if they know their partner sleeps with another man.

Beautiful women are more afraid of being betrayed than sexual deception.Photo: eteract.com.

According to the Telegraph, this is the conclusion of Dr. Kenneth Levy and Dr. Dr Kristen Kelly of the University of Pennsylvania, USA. Two experts met 416 people (including 99 males and 317 females) and asked which one they feared more in the following two situations: A lover loves another person or his partner has sex with another (or many).

In addition, Levy and Kelly asked the study subjects to fill in the assessment of their peace of mind in sexual relations.

The results showed that the love for other women makes the women feel more vulnerable than he went to bed with many girls. In contrast, men feel more painful if their lover sleeps with another man.

The two researchers believe that the two contradictory views about the most frightening thing in sexual relations help us understand why the divorce rate rises in this era. Research results also help us know what to do to make men and women feel secure in their sexual relationships.

Scientists believe that the difference is derived from evolution. For thousands of years, men have always been extremely careful in their defense because they can never know with absolute certainty that children are their true products. Meanwhile, the top priority of women is to find a man who is capable and willing to take care of his family.

Men often hide their insecurity about relationships by focusing on sex and being independent of women. In contrast, women try to make love relationships more profound by increasing the level of emotional attachment.

Levy and Kelly said that a part of men also think like women, meaning that they are also more afraid of love traitors than having sex with others.

Some people - both men and women - tend to be faithful in loving relationships, but there are many others who promote their own freedom and do not value emotional attachment. According to Levy and Kelly, not appreciating emotional attachment is one of human defense tactics. That tactic helps us not to be so horribly hurt when love breaks or we can't marry our partners. Those who pursue this strategy tend to "invest" more sex than the effort to cultivate affection.

The study is published in the journal Psychological Science.