7 psychological signs that show you

Too perfectionist, refusing to feel, blaming others . are actions that make your happiness fly away.

All the goals that we strive for, our efforts, the work we do . are not beyond the desire to be happy. However, sometimes we because of our efforts to find happiness, we inadvertently sink deeper into unhappiness and the feeling of "self-torment" ourselves.

The following signs will indicate whether you are destroying your own happiness.

1. Too dependent on 'inner critic'

According to studies from the University of British Columbia's Department of Linguistics, the inner voice is actually the result of the brain predicting the outcome of the incident. This prediction may be true, but it may be wrong, but don't believe in this "hunch" prediction.

Listen, compare with the current situation and try to object. You imagine you are standing between an angelic side, the other is a demon. And of course, angels are not always right.

2. Delayed

Some psychologists say that procrastination is a mechanism to deal with anxiety related to starting a job or completing a task or a time to make a decision. For those who often work impulsively, amateurs, following interests, improvisation, the "delayed" disease becomes more serious.

Therefore, if you find yourself procrastinating, admit this bad habit and embark on a waiver of this "ugly" procrastination routine.

3. Choose certainty instead of daring to cope with risk

According to Abraham Maslow's 'Demand Tower' theory, the second basic need after survival that everyone needs is safety. So people tend to choose the certainty instead of the unclear risk.

But if that certainty makes you unhappy, you're not doing what you like, living without a dream . no one will help you if you don't actively choose to change with risk but can Make everything better.

4. Try to control everything

Life is always changing so it is difficult for anyone to predict and anticipate everything that will happen in the future. Many people always brace themselves to put things under control.

In a way, this can give you safety, but, according to many psychologists, this is unlikely. Therefore, learn to accept the event and practice thinking about how to overcome all problems in life.

5. Do not feel

Studies of social and behavioral psychology of sociological theorist Ori Brafman have shown that many psychological effects have an impact on each person's personal and work life.

In which there are subjective thinking and psychological fear of damage. This mentality indicates a downtrend to avoid losses and possible losses.

If you often consider what other people do is crazy, ridiculous, then you are falling into this kind of thinking, not ready to accept new thoughts.

Try to stop judging and enjoy it. Sensing details, sounds, smells . will make you less difficult and certainly, you'll be happy.

6. Blame others

This fear mentality is also a fear of responsibility and sometimes you will realize that often the mistakes you try to give to others are your fault and the ones you always blame actually come more from others.

Self-awareness is necessary. It will give you courage and humility to take responsibility, not only what has happened, but also for what you want to create.

The study also shows that psychological fear of fear creates fear of responsibility. But do you see, sometimes the error you try to "give" to others is your fault and the errors that you always blame yourself are actually more affected by others.

Self-awareness is necessary because it will give you courage and humility to take responsibility before each problem. Understanding the nature of the problem, you will always find a way to be happy.

7. Too perfectionist

According to psychologists, perfectionists who tend to want everything to be perfect, from work, family to friends and generally all that is related to them.

It is different from the one who strives for a better life. Although there may be certain successes in the job, perfectionists often face a range of problems including disruption of relationships and psychological disturbances.

Therefore, setting too many goals and forcing yourself to complete those things only makes you more tired.