Reaction after parting in a scientific perspective

Let's see how our bodies react when we encounter failures in love .

For many people, love is always something special and wonderful . but that's when it's not over. The longer the love is, the more broken we become when we break down, so much so that our whole life will not love anyone else.

It seems that it's just a simple feeling and hard to explain. However, today, scientists have found the answer to those things.

1. Fear of rejection

Since prehistoric times, one of the things that people fear most is being denied feelings. At that time, being rejected in love was equivalent to a death sentence.

This is most evident in punishments such as "expulsion" from the tribe, who is immediately ruled out of their place of living, must take care of their own lives and end up often being death. .

Today, along with the development of society, most people have a better look and reflex every time they are denied feelings. A survey was conducted to find out the connection between rejection with physical and neurological reactions . in humans.

Participants will be brought in front of some unfamiliar people and predict whether they will accept the offer or like themselves. The results show that the person they think will accept it suddenly rejects it.

At this time, their bodies showed a common reaction, which was a sudden slowing of the heartbeat. These people all take a while to get used to and handle that 'denied'.

These effects are caused by the parasympathetic nervous system (the nervous system that manages the effects associated with unhappy emotions). When rejected, this nervous system will be stimulated and self-regulate the activity of different parts of the body such as the heart, lungs, internal organs, genitals . That's why when denied , people often see dizziness (because the heart can't pump blood), difficulty breathing and loss of sexual inspiration .

The only way to resolve this situation is to prevent the functioning of the parasympathetic nervous system. This means, you have to do 'forget' about being denied or making the rejection become familiar.

2. "Addictive love" and seek benefits from your lover

When you love someone, the image of that person will appear, accompanying your thoughts and actions, especially when the 'other half' helps you solve problems in your life, giving you a good gift something for you. And when all these things disappear, you will feel inadequate to feel like there is a 'real' big loss.

For example, if "that person" used to help you wash dishes and bowls, when you parted, one of the things you couldn't do right away was washing dishes. Because every time you see them, you reminisce about the beautiful days that have passed.

Stony Brook University (USA) has come up with an interesting study on the brains of the beloved and the drug addict's brain. By fMRI brain scanning, scientists have found a correlation between these two brains.

This result is quite similar to Fisher's theory in 2004 that love is like opium. When fascinated by someone, your brain releases dopamine, which produces the same reaction as when you take cocaine or amphetamine.

At that time, the explosive part of the brain processing emotions causes the heart to beat 3 times faster than normal, put blood on the cheeks and genitalia, and create a feeling of restlessness in the heart. Therefore, emotions when falling in love will be very difficult to control, easily leading to aggressive actions such as murder, suicide, or severe depression . when denied in love.

3. Always remember the past

There is a fact that no one denies that we are always looking forward to the future but never forget the past. This is a tremendous resource, helping us improve and see weaknesses. However, this is also a rock that crushes all hopes with those who miss in love.

American scientists have found the culprit for this, which is the love hormone - oxytocin - "chemical glue" that promotes feelings of love, social cohesion and happiness.

However, new research has shown that this hormone also makes people remember more about sad memories in the past. Besides, they also increase sensitivity, fear and anxiety with future events.

Oxytocin is a hormone secreted in the hypothalamus, stored in the posterior lobe of the pituitary. When the hypothalamus sends a nerve signal to the pituitary, oxytocin will be released.

At this time, oxytocin will strongly affect our emotions, making it easier for you to recall sad memories, habits in the past. From there, make you have a comparison between the problems and actions of the old and new love.

This will further prevent you from going to find a new love. Therefore, scientists recommend that, instead of trying to connect everything with the past, find a way to "replace" and forget it. Only so, new love will become much more beautiful and smooth.