Mothers raise children more successfully

From the perspective of folklore, fatherless children often encounter problems in their lives: they will be scorned, teased when they go to school. So saying that is hard to make them successful in adult life. But it is not possible to equate all children who are not corrupted by their father.

Consider the unimaginable success case of presidential candidate Barack Obama, Olympic swimmer Michael Phelps and others when living only with his mother.

Obama, the Illinois senator finally accepted the appointment of the democratic party president, Phelps won 8 gold medals at the Beijing Olympics. All of them - similar to Tour de France Lance Armstrong bicycle champion, Massachusetts mayor Deval Patrick and actor Banjamin Bratt - are really mature as a mature man right after Youth though life has no father.

For decades, scientists recognized that children who were raised in a full family with both parents often had better education than children without fathers. That is the truth. But researcher Michael Lamb, a professor of psychology at Cambridge University in England, has a new study that surprises all previous arguments.

He said, 'Actually, a fatherless child will have a lot of risks. But not all inherit the inheritance from a parent-only family, just because of the ability of each child to be aware that will become good or spoiled. You cannot assume that all children born and raised in a family with only a father or mother will become difficult to teach. '

Lamb also said that in the past decades, researchers have been concerned about the growing risk of children, and 'their concern is to study too much about the cultural way, which leads they came to the idea that children would not grow better outside a traditional family ' . He also added: 'The evidence we give shows that it is not quite so, but the difficulty is that society has had so many prejudices deeply embedded in their thoughts.

Another expert, sociologist Tim Biblarz of the University of Southern California - Los Angeles, said the evidence shows that the main economy plays a key role in risking negative arguments, such as qualifications and foundation. low education, actions of private interest, or accepting living to be appropriate to the environment.

According to him: 'Children who live in wealthy families with only a fatherless mother tend to live more actively than poor children. A lot of evidence suggests that poor children often have to change to fit into a complex environment, which creates risks for spoilage. '

According to recent 2007 figures from the US Census, 8.4 million children under the age of 18 only live with their mothers. About 22% of those children are in adult age in the United States. Lamb said the children would be better off if they had a good relationship with their parents in the family, as well as if their parents were in conflict, if their parents had a decent economy, and if the child was able to perceive good to cope with all situations.

So it is not important to be cared for by a family with only a mother or both parents. It depends on the parent's emotional relationship, depending on the parents' provision for children and depends on whether the living environment is friendly. Lamb argues that in the case of President Obama's candidate, his mother has created many conditions for him to have a good knowledge base, and to provide all economic terms, as well as proper care. level.

Michael Kimmel, a sociologist and gender research specialist at Stony Brook University in New York, has remarked that parents have a great influence on their personality formation.

In this regard, sociologist Tim Biblarz added: 'We often think that boys need a lot of care from a father just like girls often live with their mothers. That is not entirely true. I can't tell you much about proof of that. But for many different reasons, children who grow up with fathers are often at higher risk of disorientation if they live with their mothers. '

Peggy Drexler, the author of the 2005 book "Raising a Man Without a Man" about the case of Phelps, his mother Debbie Phelps had a proper educational approach. He said that Phelps was born as a gift that his mother put effort and spirit into.

She said: 'The reason that those mothers can do that is because they realize that they should not try to keep their children for too long. They encourage their children 's talents, orient and encourage independent thinking and adventure, want to be conquered.'