Research shows that 'should not consider your lover to be the most'

Recent research by American psychologists has shown that you should not worship love as well as worship the person you love too much because this puts great pressure on your relationship.

Psychologist Jennifer Tomlinson of Colgate University in New York said: "Love always needs compliments of affection, but I think that understanding and recognizing one's true nature is extremely important. important ".

We all know that a person who is immersed in a sense of happiness with a lover will always assume that the person is the most perfect. However, according to researcher Tomlinson this will lead to a person who is always worshiping, taking that person's model as a standard measure for others.

She and her colleagues conducted experiments to determine the optimal level of idealization of lovers in couples. During the first test, 99 couples (including a lesbian couple) did a test, answered and raised questions about their relationship.

Couples believe that they will give the same answers and questions about the current love affair. In half of the cases, the answers are given the same. But the other half, they secretly offered different opinions. Volunteers have made a request for their "partners" to list the 30 subjects they once had.

Upon receiving the request, the other person immediately lost focus like scribbling, creating an impression by saying the compliments that were abundantly about their relationship and feelings.

Later, the study subjects were asked to sit on a striped chair together. Experts found that the subjects who always idealized the relationship created more distance between them - about 8.4cm.

Continuing the experiment, 89 couples with an average age of 30 and 153 college students are immersed in love. Participants in the survey were asked to talk about themselves, express their affection to the enemy and make predictions about the remarks that the other person spoke about him.

The results showed that people feel happy with the most relationship when believing that the other half always sees good points about themselves more than themselves. But researchers say that flattery is not a good thing by experimenting, they find people who consider themselves too ideal for partners to keep an eye out for fear of emotion.

Tomlinson said: "People who always idealize and worship their lovers are more likely to make relationships more burdensome and boring."