Things you don't know about self-abuse

Recently, many young people have self-abusing themselves due to stressful issues in their lives or dissatisfaction with themselves, conflicts between desires and unresponsive individuals. This syndrome is spreading, causing parents and society to worry.

Self-pain to be satisfied

According to TS.BS Nguyen Doan Phuong, Director of the Institute of Mental Health, Bach Mai Hospital, self-abuse is a form of "pain" both physically and mentally for the purpose of eliminating oneself . Someone uses a knife, a piece of china, a porcelain knife to slit the skin for bleeding, hair pulling, and slapping his cheek to be satisfied as one of many manifestations of self-abuse syndrome. Or someone who sets out penalties that are not suitable for me .

Signs of self-abuse

According to MSc psychologist Nguyen Lan Anh, severe episodes of depression can almost all begin with the moderate-sized crisis. Growing up, complex social relationships, 'crisis' can swell into depression. Without intervention, early treatment is incalculable.

Dr. Nguyen Ngoc Phuong (Mai Huong Mental Hospital, Hanoi) said : 'The pressure of learning, failing exams, falling in love, gender inferiority, not finding the meaning of life, even wanting to prove . made Many young people fall into mistreatment from mild to severe themselves, especially in teenagers (13-19 years old). This is a transition period between adolescence and adulthood, the term psychology called the 'storm and stress' period.

According to health experts, the indication of self-abuse patients is: self-destructive behaviors such as self-inflicted pain, the most common form of hand cut, wrist cut with pains sharp, shallow enough to cause blood leakage in many different locations but not to the detriment of life.

According to Director Nguyen Doan Phuong, patients can also plunge into the wall, self-attack, self-slapping; hair pulling, skin tearing; fast. Together, it is the state of inhibiting the accompanying emotions such as self-harm, self-abuse in the spirit of putting yourself in many forbidden circumstances, to suffer. It is important that after each time harming themselves, patients feel more comfortable, so there is a tendency to recur to release inhibition.

The most common self-destructive behavior is hand cutting.

In addition, patients often feel sad, depressed, tired, irritable, sleep disturbances; In particular, emotional inhibition almost occupies the entire time of the disease, sometimes with an anxiety state. Besides, there are other symptoms such as irregular, fast heartbeat or palpitations, feeling tightness in the left breast, hypertension; knee fatigue, muscle tension, paralysis, pain in the joint; feeling difficult breathing, fear of suffocation .

Family is an important factor

About the disease is still new and extremely dangerous, TS.BS Duong Minh Tam - Head of Stress Management Department, Institute of Mental Health analysis: The reason is that the school is mainly educating knowledge and still heavy on discipline. Meanwhile at home, parents use authority to exert pressure and pressure to shape their children. This greatly affects the interests, passions or lifestyles of minors with deviant, pessimistic, impasse thoughts.

It is worth noting that patients who suffer from stressful issues must share and seek help from others, but the patients find ways to eliminate themselves because they do not want people around to know. Or vice versa, they do so to catch the attention of others. Accordingly, common stresses are life, social problems or self-dissatisfaction, conflicts between desires and unresponsive individuals.

The adolescent age of psychological capital is not stable, open and straightforward conversations between parents and children are the best way to understand and counsel children, help them foster personality, reduce stress in life. Parents must always be friendly and respectful of their children, not only to become friends to share their feelings with their children, but also to acknowledge their strengths and weaknesses as well as their own and not yet to creating fairness in behavior.

How do children not get this disease?

About the cause of the disease, except for those with congenital or mental illness or omission in the early years of childhood, the rest of the normal children have personality due to their education. family and school decided .

However, there are many reasons for children with little or no education, bending . such as difficult economy, busy work, family tragedy or the idea of ​​birth and birth of grass, family. The family is less interested in the education of children . Parents and grandparents often know the needs, interests, passions of the child and among them the deviations need to be rectified.

It is not always true to bring children out and use their rights, not to be right and to use them.

Poor and over-stimulating children bring bad consequences. These children after years of wanting what they want will form a weak personality (vulnerable): Lack of self-control and self-control, like to be spoiled, like to show off and very poor to suffer difficulties in life.

This weak personality has two characteristic pathological characteristics that are high emotional and hypocrisy. When not satisfied, the patient is deeply depressed, too angry, afraid of altitude . dominant and consequently the reason is overwhelmed, irrespective of right and wrong, is the cause of crying, screaming, smashing, struggling; Hypersensitivity is high, for example when crying, blurred vision because tears arise, fear of blindness and immediately see nothing (called blind hysteria or loss of vision). Spiteful and overprivileged children are just a reference to an aspect of the diversity of personality education.

Today, digital technology has a lot of means and both adults and children are 'addicted'. Many families have a day to work, go to school, and have a corner for each person, parents, facebook, zalo, children, phones, tablets and direct communication between people in a roof only dark. Minor . When children think that they lack family affection, especially those with misconceptions, they are more likely to suffer from self-abuse.

Simply, children find themselves abandoned and children not grown up, so with a poetic soul, empty emotions lead to boredom, anger, discontent . it is unavoidable.

Current social status changes some psychological characteristics of youth, other than psychological characteristics of the generation of geriatric patients (55-60 years old). We adults need to understand this change in order to have an appropriate education , but the old people teach "nothing or nothing" to think it is always right. To do so, the family must be a place for children to share their needs, interests, passions and relief. Knowing these new issues can analyze your child's understanding of those needs, interests, passions that are relevant to real life, right or wrong in a certain way (such as humanity), from It is possible to rectify the distorting psychology that can cause a 'broken' life.