The affective syndrome and tricks spread six psychological traps that made love impossible to escape

True love always comes from two sides. But affectionate people just want to receive and not want to give, but they always have a way to achieve that extravagant ambition.

Hypnosis is a worrying psychological syndrome. Its English name is "Narcissism" , derived from the name of a boy in Greek mythology - Narcissus. Legend, the boy was so beautiful that the Echo river goddess fell in love. But he refuses because he thinks she is not worthy.

Too humiliated, the goddess Echo cursed that the young Narcissus could only ever love himself. So day after day, he watched his reflection through the river's water, eventually turning into a flower called "narcissus" ( narcissus ).

Mr. Narcissus watched his reflection through the water.

Today, affection is used to refer to the person who loves him too much, to consider himself the "belly of the universe" , yearning to be honored by others.

It is a too selfish and blind love! However, the lovers are very intelligent and they know how to " trap " the following love to confine the hearts of the enemy.

1. The predator (The predator)

Those who are seduced by the affectionate have a common feature that is less talkative but rich in love.

Like a predator, a lover also looks for specific objects to trap.

These are often fragile hearts, self-deprecating people with longing for comfort and comfort.

According to psychologist Silvia Horvath, those who are seduced by the affectionate have a common feature that is less talkative but rich in love; dedicated to family, friends and career.

So, they see a common (small) thing for the affectionate - a bit extreme with the things they believe in.

2. Love bombing (Love bombing)

In the first appointments, the affectionate gave the enemy a bath in the words of the bile.

Even in the first appointments, the affectionate gave the enemy a bath in the words of the bile. What is "real brother / sister is different from the older brothers who have dated before", which is "destiny", "for each other" .

At first, this makes the opponent extremely happy. Because affectionate people take good care of themselves, they are the best, and they love you all.

But that is not true. It is not the development of a normal love affair. Dr. Steven Stosny said: "If you feel a relationship that develops too suddenly, true feelings are like that. If you feel uncomfortable, the emotional source has a problem."

3. Pity play (Pity play)

When contacting the enemy, the affectionate often knows how to enlist sympathy from them!

Do you remember those who love affection often aim at affectionate, vulnerable people? Therefore, when contacting the enemy, the affectionate often knows how to enlist sympathy from them!

An affectionate person will show innocence, recounting his previous love affair, or his childhood has been treated badly. For this too quick opening, you should be alert. They may not lie completely, but the purpose of this is still very suspicious.

4. Light up gas light (Gaslighting)

Gaslighting takes place very slowly.

Gas light is dim, real damage. In psychology, "lighting gas lamps" or "gaslighting" refers to a form of emotional abuse.

Gaslighting takes place very slowly. Do you know the "frog in boiling water" phenomenon? The water will warm up slowly so that the frog does not recognize it because it is a thermo animal, it is too hot to kill the frog.

So is the affectionate. At first they lied very openly, as a fleeting joke. They flatter you, ask you whether they are bad people or not . The fanciful lines make you confused and gradually lose the correct judgment.

More seriously, the affair also tells family and friends that you are not right, want to be alone at this time.

At the same time, they told you, "do you need me / you more" (remember the "play a pitiful role" ?). Gradually, you are separated from someone you trust, like losing true mirrors and leaving only illusions.

5. Denial and disposal (Devalue and discard)

They have squeezed out their love, even their victims' money, so they are ready to shed their "roles" .

Until you feel that you are the most important person of a lover, they are out of desire to conquer. They have squeezed out their love, even their victims' money, so they are ready to shed their "roles" .

Victims are also very difficult to get sympathy from friends and family, for having not met for a while, not knowing what happened (thanks to the "gas light" mentioned above).

This makes us - outsiders - understand that, sometimes the trust of friendship is very important.

Don't just listen to the outward speech, but watch and chat with your friends more!

6. Clean up (Hoovering)

Enthusiasts are people who love themselves crazy.

In the end, you have escaped the "phobia of obsession" from the affair, but at that time they will return.

Remember, a lover is a man who loves himself crazy. They may abandon you but not allow the opposite!

They will apologize for everything and want to start over. At that time, we should calm down and skillfully refuse, not stepping on the car crash. After that, quit making friends on social networks, changing other phone numbers and being wary, spending more time with your family and friends.

And the most important thing is to believe that there will be someone who truly loves you, for your own sake, not because of the dark mania!