The scientifically proven paradox: Being a good person is often hated

Rich is hated, hungry, and despised, but smart is looking for ways to destroy. So what are good people, they are also hated?

In this world, it is impossible to please our people. Being bad is being hated, of course, but being too good is being hated!

Many people suffer miserably but do not understand why I spent so much effort to work so well and still be hated, treated nothing. It sounds paradoxical but it's true.

What did I do wrong?

Good people are often hated, even when they do nothing

In a 2010 study at Washington State University (USA), students were given a number of "points". They have the right to keep points or use them to buy food or use school services. They were divided into groups of 5, of which 4 were "plugged in" by researchers. They all know that the more "spend", the more likely they are to win the cash prize.

Of course, the people installed are not for fun. They will give away a lot of points, but don't ask for anything back.

Yet the results were unexpected, when most students said they never wanted to be in the same group with "generous" people. They think that those people make the image of the group so ugly, or something shady.

Generous and kind that makes you suspect that there is a shady plot.

OK! So those who show generosity can be jealous - this is completely understandable. However, even if you do nothing, you can still be hated.

Seriously, you never protest when your boss makes excessive requests and is satisfied with low wages for many years. You always give up your colleagues to WC before, never participate in discussing a bad person, never say a sentence that is troll . So, you are hated simply because you are boring , that's all!

But don't give up being a good person

We cannot conclude that being a good person is unwise, just don't . be good . People only hate those who make themselves feel they are " raising prices" themselves too high by "noble to perfect" actions .

Good but not so good.

In the real world, your colleague may not like someone who always agrees to buy food for the whole room, or voluntarily fix the printer when it gets stuck in paper. Sometimes, knowing to refuse is also a good thing, as long as you have good reasons.

Remember the following formula: every 4 good deeds, " swear" your colleagues once. That is the key to being normal (not hateful) in the eyes of others.

Sometimes let's pretend to be a little bad.