There can be no friendship between men and women

Friendships between men create respect, among admired girls, however, the friendship between men and women is often seen with suspicion, even hostility. We try to understand some of the reasons behind this attitude.

First , the concept of "friends" is understood completely differently between men and women. The kind of weak friendship is often a trust-based relationship. It opens up a secret that women tend to pour their hearts to others, preferring to offer long-term advice and debates on a multitude of topics, while men's friendship is based on action. Men hate being said to be weak or indecisive. They like to do something instead of talking about it. Do you often see a guy chatting with friends for hours? Or do you know which man likes to discuss the upcoming fishing trip?

Secondly , both concepts and taboos are deeply rooted in our thoughts. We can understand and accept friendship between people of the same gender. In contrast, the friendship between a man and a woman is unlikely to cause suspicion. We cannot do anything to rectify this, because that kind of friendship does not exist. On the other hand, it is still unclear why some men seek friendship in women who do not belong to their groups, while women seem quite willing to share their notions and feelings with copper. Male career and consider them as real friends.

(Photo: britishcouncil) This situation is understandable considering the role of the family on the other half of the balance: Friendship can give us something that families cannot bring.

For example, we can tell you about secrets that cannot be exchanged with a spouse. A series of "taboo topics" often involve our bad behaviors, the most secretive minds and worries. It was hard to imagine a man telling his wife about another girl that made him flutter. But it was easy to catch a guy confessing he threw a lot of money into roulette games last night. Similarly, women find it difficult to tell their husbands that their life has become worse, she would rather be alone for a while.

In this case, friendship is a good form of escape for both men and women. It helps build another type of relationship where the two can understand each other, and "extremely strange people" can reach the pinnacle of true friendship. It does not happen by accident. Men can do that to achieve certain goals. But they kept secret from each other while doing this. Men like to share the most intimate thoughts with women without being always their wives.

"There's always sex hiding somewhere behind the friendship between men and women," said Lilian Rubin, a sociologist. "Sexual love in friendship makes it particularly attractive or even sexy. However, most men and women agree that physical relations threaten their friendship by sex. the desire to possess, which goes against natural friendship ". A good friend can turn into a bad lover. There are also men and women who skillfully keep the balance between sexual feelings and friendship, but most of these heterosexual friends like everything very well.

T. An