Why do men soon 'take another step'?

Statistics in many countries show that, after divorce or death, men often "walk" more and faster than women. The reason is not really because the men have sex.

Men who used to have families often cannot stand loneliness ( Photo: Xphix ).

From the phenomenon of men who are easy to get a new marriage, some people think that men are unfaithful, they are easy to forget the past attached to their cheek-knee partner to quickly find other happiness. So are men who are worthy gamblers to blame?

The scientific work of psychologist Dr. Jonathan of the Institute of Human Sex Research in London has shown that men who have remarried early have their reasons; society needs sympathy and facilitates them to heal their wounds.

In fact, widows or wives who give up their single life will have a higher risk of mental collapse, falling into a boredom, neglect, and shortened life expectancy. This proves that psychologically, men are weaker than women and marriage is more necessary for men, although people still think that women need men more often.

The first reason: Men appear to be inferior in organizing their own lives, especially after a long time having a wife take care of it for her. They are very difficult to get used to without a wife. Rarely do single men sit meticulously to pick up every grain of rice before blowing rice or self-inflicting a hole in the pants due to cigarette butts. That's not to mention more elaborate things like cleaning each bed or regularly cleaning the house. So entering a single man's place, one can immediately recognize it.

Second reason: After divorce, most men must live alone in the most specific sense of the word. Because divorced women often live with their children. The court also gives priority to custody of the mother. The situation of men living alone is very detrimental to them psychologically. Because of lazy housework, single men have more leisure time than women and it makes them more sad.

Someone took the wine to be sad, sitting alone "confidently" with the bottle for hours. Lonely men also smoke more than married people because they can freely smoke at any time. Once alcohol is combined with cigarettes, its health damage is many times greater than each of these habits separately.

On the other hand, human beings are not only a biological individual but also one but also a social unit. Therefore, when returning to his quiet room, losing the opportunity to communicate with others, the mentality of loneliness became heavier. One brother said: Sometimes, on television, the program "meet at the weekend", he must turn off and dare not see, fear of laughing alone is like a crazy person.

Single men do not like to make friends like women, they also feel their loneliness, so they do not play with married men. The absence of comfort, encouragement and loss of self-confidence affects the speed of reflexes needed by the nervous system. That explains why men are single or have traffic accidents or work accidents than married men.

Perhaps for these reasons, the man is more aggressive in finding new partners. Because they do not have to raise children, they can go to the clubs that make friends or go to crowded places for dancing and festivals, where they can meet many girls.

Looking for a girlfriend with men is also much bigger than women. They can marry women at any age as long as they reach the age of marriage and consent to them. Meanwhile, women are afraid of public opinion that they "fishing" a "boy", less than me. That is not to mention the difficulty of women is how to find a man in harmony with his own child.

However, it is noteworthy that the number of men divorced for the second time is also higher than for women. That's not to mention those who fall into a chronic divorce situation, meaning getting married many times but never surviving for long. Usually the feeling of not having a wife, yearning for a mate will be lost soon after getting married and soon they face the same difficulties as in the previous marriage, to end up in the trail.

This is more likely to happen to conservative men who never see their unpleasant faces. They often rely on the opinions of their friends or relatives - people who don't really understand them so think they are right. So in the next marriage, they still failed to overcome the previous defects.

Today, most societies have sympathized and are no longer strict with men who remarry early. However, the problem is not that men should remarry sooner or later but need to draw experience of previous failure to find happiness in later marriage.