Advice for new mothers

For the first time as a mother, besides endless joy, you will face many new challenges. That makes you feel unable to " stand " . The most important thing you need to remember is: You are not alone.

What do you have to do?

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When you are born, one of the most important things you can do is to welcome and seek help from family and friends. Equally important is to be comfortable, not too anxious or stressed because you don't have experience as a mother. When I had a child, it seemed that the time to complete daily tasks such as cooking rice, washing clothes, even making phone calls . would double. Therefore, any help for you during this time is very valuable. In the first few weeks you can get help from the following sources:

Your partner : Because breastfeeding is the "exclusive" of the mother, the father can do other things to help. Think of this as the time of a new family, the couple working together to organize and divide the work properly. If for some reason your "husband" cannot be at home to help, you should find someone close and trusting to help you in the early days.

Relatives and friends : It is customary to have a lot of friends and cousins ​​visiting at birth and of course this makes you happier. However, this is a time when you may not be able to recover completely, so you are still tired and sometimes you will feel "overloaded" but still have to try to complete the destiny of a hospitable host. This is when you need help from them. You can give a good "retreat" such as: "My mother and son are very happy because they came to visit us but now I have to sleep, and I will stay awake next time." Nobody will blame you if you do so because they all understand that it's time to rest. So this is a useful help from them.

Midwives or home health care workers : Often the midwife will monitor your health at home for the first 10 days after birth. Then maybe the midwife will be replaced by a nurse who will monitor your health for the next time period.

Can you sleep well?

Usually when you have a baby, it is very difficult for you to have a full sleep as before because the child can wake up anytime, even in the middle of the night, to ask for a feed or a pat. This can make the biological clock in your body run wrong. When you are sleep deprived, you are very irritable and sometimes do not have the inherent calmness to deal with everyday tasks. So how to solve this problem? You can consult some ways below:

Share breastfeeding at night with your husband : You might wonder how breast-feeding is a "monopoly" of the mother? It is true that this is not simple but not without a way. You can express milk to a bottle before you go to bed and agree with your husband that he will breastfeed with that bottle if you wake up. If you can't do that, you can agree with your husband in a different way. Ask him to lull his baby if he wakes up without asking for a feed. With this method you will be able to sleep enough hours, ensuring health to better raise children.

Relax : Relax before bedtime. The best solution is to take a warm bath. Drinking a cup of warm water is also an effective way. If more complicated, you can refer to some relaxation skills for newborns in some books or references from women's organizations.

Sleep at the time the child sleeps : This is often easier said than done because it may be that you have to visit friends or relatives at the time or do some household chores. If possible, you should have a sign hanging at the door indicating that you are at rest. You can also tell someone close to you to look after you when you sleep if you find it difficult to do so.

Loneliness

Your life will change a lot when a baby appears. Now you can have fun with your child but in return some friendships will be interrupted. This can sometimes make you feel sad and lonely. To make up for it, you can make friends with some other women who are also raising children to have more in common.

A mother once said: "I am very proud to be a mother but at that time I was less able to talk and work with friends. This sometimes makes me feel down."

In addition to looking for unions or women's associations that share the same task to be able to express your feelings, you can get back to the hospital records when you give birth to read again. According to some, this way also helps you feel somewhat relieved.